You must study to be frank with the world:frankness is the child of honesty and courage. Say just what you mean to do, on every occasion. If a friend asks a favor, you should grant it, if it is reasonable; if not, tell him plainly why you cannot. You would wrong him and wrong yourself by equivocation of any kind.
Never do a wrong thing to make a friend or keep one. The man who requires you to do so is dearly purchased at a sacrifice. Deal kindly but firmly with all your classmates. You will find it the policy which wears best. Above all, do not appear to others what you are not.
If you have any fault to find with any one, tell him, not others, of what you complain. There is no more dangerous experiment than that of undertaking to do one thing before a mans face and another behind his back. We should say and do nothing to the injury of any one. It is not only a matter of principle, but also the path of peace and hornor.
By Robert E. Lee
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在世间需要掌握以真诚示人:率真乃是诚实与勇敢之子。无论在何种场所,都要道源于己的真实想法。假如朋友对你有所求,对于合情合理之请,应该欣然赞同;不然,应该明了解白地告诉朋友拒绝的原因。任何模棱两可的话语将会让其他人误解,也会使自己蒙受冤屈。
千万不要为了结交朋友或者挽留友情而做错一事。对你有这种需要的人也会付出沉重的代价。与同学真心相对,绝不背叛。你将发现这是效果最好用的准则。总之,要以真实面目示人。
假如发现某人身有缺陷,直接告诉他你的建议,而不是诉之别人。人前一套,背后又是一套,没什么比这愈加危机四伏。任何有损别人的言语或者事情大家都要防止。这不止是一种做人的原则,而且也是通向平和的人际关系、获得别人尊敬之道。